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How to not die alone : the surprising science that will help you find love / Logan Ury.

Ury, Logan, (author.).

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Love, as the saying goes, make fools of us all. But behavioral scientist and dating coach Logan Ury wants to fix that. A lasting, loving relationship doesn't just happen. It's the result of a series of decisions: when to date, who to date, who to settle down with, if you should break up, and everything in between. Very often, we don't understand why we're making certain decisions, and that causes us to make mistakes. And our current dating environment-with its overwhelming amount of options and constant pressure to make the right choice-only makes those decisions harder. Logan studied psychology at Harvard and spent years researching relationships. Here, she explains expectations, emotions, and other invisible forces that drive our faulty decision-making. But awareness on its own doesn't lead to action. (Knowing you shouldn't date "bad boys" or "manic pixie dream girls" doesn't make them any less appealing.) You have to do something. And Logan shows you how. Each chapter focuses on a different decision, from the first date on, and includes big ideas from behavioral science, original research, hands-on exercises, and stories about people just like you, to help you find-and keep-love. You'll learn: -What's really holding you back in dating-it's not what you think (and how to overcome it) -How to meet people in real life (and how to not come off as creepy) -Why your current dating app filters won't find a great match (and how to fix them) -Why you should always go on a second date (unless you're getting serious serial killer vibes) -Why "The One" doesn't exist (but you'll find love anyway) ... and much more!
A lasting, loving relationship doesn't just happen. It's the result of a series of decisions: when to date, who to date, who to settle down with, if you should break up, and everything in between. Our current dating environment, with its overwhelming amount of options and constant pressure to make the right choice, only makes those decisions harder. Ury spent years researching relationships, and here explains expectations, emotions, and other invisible forces that drive our faulty decision-making. You have to do something. And Ury shows you how. - adapted from info provided

Record details

  • ISBN: 9781982120627
  • ISBN: 1982120622
  • ISBN: 9781982120634
  • ISBN: 1982120630
  • Physical Description: 335 pages : illustrations ; 24 cm
  • Edition: First Simon & Schuster hardcover edition.
  • Publisher: New York : Simon & Schuster, 2021.

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Bibliography, etc. Note:
Includes bibliographical references (pages 319-335).
Formatted Contents Note:
Introduction -- Getting ready. Why dating is harder now than ever before ; The three dating tendencies ; Disney lied to us ; Don't let perfect be the enemy of great ; Don't wait, date ; Learn your attachment style ; Look for a life partner, not a prom date -- Getting out there. You think you know what you want, but you're wrong ; Meet people IRL (In Real Life) ; This is a date, not a job interview ; F**k the spark ; Go on the second date -- Getting serious. Decide, don't slide ; Stop hitching and stop ditching ; Make a breakup plan ; Reframe your breakup as a gain, not a loss ; Before you tie the knot, do this ; Intentional love.
Subject: Dating (Social customs) > Psychological aspects.
Interpersonal relations > Psychological aspects.
Intimacy (Psychology)
Genre: Self-help publications.

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  • 2 of 2 copies available at Monroe County Libraries. (Show)
  • 1 of 1 copy available at Clymer Library System.

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